Wedding Etiquette for Parents of Bride

Wedding Etiquette for Parents of Bride

What is the Proper Wedding Etiquette for Parents of Bride?

wedding wtiquette for parents of brideWedding etiquette for parents of bride duties have changed somewhat over the years.

Chances are, parents of the bride may have a different take on what they need to do, pay for and plan for their daughter’s wedding. Often there may be a lack of communication between the bride and her parents as to what may be expected.

After the bride and groom’s engagement, it’s best to plan a meeting to discuss everyone’s expectations. Beforehand, as parents of the bride, set a budget and any other guidelines to be set in place for the wedding and reception.

Some Things To Thing About

  • Budget (what are you willing to pay for)
  • Location (how far or how close to home)
  • Venue
  • Theme (any restrictions?)
  • Wedding (formal or informal)
  • Number of Guests

Share The News With Friends and Family

Parents are sure to be happy when finding out the news that their daughter is engaged. The wedding etiquette for parents of bride to let friends and family know is somewhat varied with a wide range of choices. Take some time to decide how you would like to share the news, the cost associated and who with to share the engagement news.

Here are a few ideas for sharing the news from inexpensive to expensive:

Word of Mouth– Tell a few friends and family members and have them pass it on.

Phone Everyone– This can be time consuming and awkward.

Send An Announcement– Easy to order online, especially with pre-printed envelopes.

Have an Engagement Party– The most expensive choice, but unique and the sky is the limit.

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Planning The Wedding- How much or how little?

This is a tough question to ask since all families have different budgets. Good communication of parents with the bride and groom is pertinent in this situation. Do you assume that the bride and groom will plan the wedding because it’s their wedding? Or should the bride’s parents have input since they are paying for the wedding?

Talking these points over with the bride and groom is a good idea right after the engagement announcement. A good compromise is for the bride and groom to have the final say as long as it fits into guidelines and expectations of the parents.

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How Many Guests?

Tricky, YES! Un-do-able, NO! We all know who our closest relatives and friends are and have a definite list of wedding attendees. Easily said, but what about this rhetoric:

  • “My cousin Jan is the only one I am close to”.
  • “I would like to invite my friend from work, but the other coworkers may be insulted”.
  • “Should we invite all of the parents of the wedding party”?
  • “The groom wants to invite his entire office”.
  • “Where do we draw the line”?

All of these thoughts that run through our minds when planning a wedding are totally justified. Decisions, hard as they are, must be made. Many of these decisions can be easily decided due to budget.

The bride and the groom should have equal the amount of invitations on each side or at least agree to however many on each side.

Casual weddings (beach, park etc) make guest planning a bit easier with room for more guests. Casual fare or a buffet is less expensive and can accommodate more food for guests.

Bottom line: Make a list of the pros and cons of having a casual wedding with more guests or a formal wedding with less guests.

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Walking Down The Aisle

This is an important tradition of any wedding and definitely plays a part in wedding etiquette for parents of bride traditions. With blended families and single parents, the tradition of Dad walking the bride down the aisle is no longer a given.

The bride has many choices especially if a father is not in the picture. Brides often choose their Mom, but brothers, uncles, sons and step-fathers are also given the honor. There is no right or wrong choice, only one that makes the bride happy on her wedding day.

A Few More Things To Remember:

Don’t get too caught up in the details. Share in the joy.

Not everything will be perfect, so go with the flow.

Put drama to rest.

Enjoy the journey.

Smile, hug and love!







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  1. I have a feeling this is coming soon for my daughter who is in a serious relationship and about to graduate college. I had no clue about etiquette as mother of the bride. Thank you.

  2. This is crazy to me! My parents didn’t pay for a thing when I got married. Granted, I was 19 and was getting married in a courthouse, but still. I really hope my daughter gets married in a courthouse. I mean, it does save a bunch of money!

  3. This is such a great post – I often see people worrying about how there parents seem to want one thing, but they want it another way. I always think it’s the childs big day let them enjoy it there way.

  4. I have such a different wedding. We kept it very small — immediate family and my hubby had his best friend and family and I had 3 friends attend. It was nice and more intimate. I know that some family were hurt/angry – wish they would of understood. Neither my husband nor I are big on attention

  5. That’s curious stuff. I didn’t know there were was an etiquette also for the parents of the groom or bride on traditional marriages. I didn’t see many of those. All of my friends had a more relaxed celebration.

  6. We have always help pay for and help with our sons’ weddings. From catering a reception to making the bouquets and decorations we’ve done it to help and welcome their new wives into our family.

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